Your one year old baby dancing on the beats of a song
and looking at you for your feedback; your pet running around you, jumping
around and pulling your shirt; your 5 year old daughter disturbing you when you
are conversing something very important with your spouse; Bipasha Basu dancing
in a TV shows; and your friends posting about their daily activities on Facebook.
We all are attention seekers by nature or I should say by
birth.
This discussion, which I had with an office colleague, struck
me like a nail and then I looked around and felt yes! We all are surrounded by
attention seekers and we are no less a part of this attention seeking freakiness.
There is no problem in being an attention seeker but the
problem arises due to another contrasting human trade.
We all are attention seekers but we don’t want to compliment
anyone for anything.
Yes! I might sound a little confused but humans by nature are not very supporting; all we like to do is to compete with someone, and if we are
not capable of competing, we like to criticize them.
Critics telling Sachin to retire; news channels having
discussions: How Anna, Arvind Kejriwal and Kiran Bedi might be corrupt. World is
full of examples of our criticizing nature.
Everyone wants a compliment but nobody
wants to compliment someone.
There is a big difference between how we want people
to behave and how we actually behave with others.
* I am looking good today in this new dress, will someone
compliment me? - He is looking good today, but why should I say that.
* How the hell he can comment on my dressing sense. I am
what I am- He/she not looking good in this attire, he doesn't know how to
dress.
* I worked so hard, my boss should praise me. - He
worked good but why should I appreciate him, nobody did that to me.
* My boss is bad; he never appreciates my work but always
point out my mistakes. - This is first and last warning, are you not working
with concentration?
* Wow! I am looking good; let me post this pic on Facebook.
- This guy is stupid, look, he uploaded another
lame picture.
We want others to listen to us but we don’t want to listen
to them. We want to be the best instead of being best buddy in our group. We want to
show off about everything. 'I know more about science, I know more about Hollywood,
I know more about music, I am best in this; I am good at that, blah blah.'
'My friend posted a song of
led zeppelin? Let me comment and show this world that I know more about led zeppelin.'
Why we want to compete with someone even on a social
networking site which was designed to talk to distant and lost friend.
Entire world is suffering from this problem of attention
seeking.
* Movie stars are creating
controversies
* Rakhi Sawant is talking nonsense on TV.
* BJP members are watching porn in assembly.
* Youngsters are dying to be on reality shows like roadies
* Even money is nothing in front of this fame craziness. Billionaires
like Bill gates, Ambani’s and Tata’s want to come on TV, and want
people to recognize them.
You actually need not to go so far to find someone
suffering from this problem.
Look around you;
* We all are spending time on net, writing
on net, because nobody listens to us and we want them to listen and recognise
us.
* Wives fight with their husbands because they want someone to
listen how they feel.
* Uncles talk to themselves while travelling in metro, in
cars, in buses, because neither wife nor boss allows them to speak their heart
out.
Apart from these small problems, this feeling of becoming
famous is leading to few major problems as well.
* You all saw ‘Dirty Picture’ which was based on Silk Samitha? Do I
need to talk who was more fame crazy, Silk Samitha or Vidya Balan?
* Youngster filming their love and uploading it on internet
is common now. Internet is full of mms clips.
* People like Bunty Chor, Natwar Lal, and Charles SobhRaj are treated like celebrities.
Only One person who is doing good and making money due to
this human problem is ‘a psychiatrist’. A psychiatrist is a person who is
making million dollars by just listening to people without interrupting or opposing
them. Psychiatrist need not to solve any problem, we can solve our own problems
when we speak our heart out.
Let’s start appreciating others for the good they are doing
and try to forgive them for the mistakes they do.
Let’s treat other in the way we want them to treat us.
If we can forgive ourselves even after hundreds of mistakes, why should we left someone because of a silly mistake they did.
Let’s try to create a new world which is less stressful and where
nobody needs to become and act like a fool to be famous.
Ravi Khurana
